I could go on, but this should give you the idea. Though my mother never openly complained about this, I could see it in her eyes. Anonymous, you are right. Family or girlfrient or the pet. I remember attending numerous priesthood meetings by myself and wishing dad were next to me. I can say this. Plan on knowing their religion better than they do at all times.
I wouldn't wish this shit on my enemy. The important thing is that you are getting to know one another, not that you are always doing fancy things. And unless they are total cretins your ward members will love him too. More than often, these men cheat and will trade up as soon as they start making some money. Mormonism is not meant to be a casual part of a Mormon's life but it is meant to be the center. I completely relate to all you've written; many of us have come to see Mormonism for what it is, and the severe damage it does to human brains. The reality, however, has been far from it, as the small number of wives we do have in the program seem to be busy raising their kids or not really interested in developing these relationships. In response to the anonymous comment posted April 3, I am not married but have been dating a medical student for about four years, he is in his second year of residency and it has honestly been difficult because when he graduated medical school he had to move five hours away to start his residency program so we travel back and forth and our relationship is serious but im scared that things will never get better as far as his busy schedule, even when im there to visit he is on call and im basically on a mini vacation by myself. I don't mean to be rude, but she's not gonna give up her "nonsense". How Soon to Call after a Date.
Should I jump ship. Because if you can't live and let live, you both need to dive deep into this stuff and figure out what you believe and want in your life. I'm no doctor so what am I supposed to do twiddle my thumbs in our room while he gets back. Only you will know. I don't know how to manage the resentment. If you have children how will they be raised. But I'm still thinking about him. We married in early 30's.
If you feel peaceful with your decision and you feel it is right that should be helpful. It's alot to understand if not raised and taught in it specifically. Maybe watch "Going Clear" with her. I'm surprised you don't seem to know how long his residency will last. I run a local nonprofit and had a demanding job, but it can never be as difficult or challenging as his job. Honestly, I don't have very good advice, but keep being you and hopefully she won't let her religion blind her like it blinded me. Something that will help you stand out is a strong masculine frame. When we started dating, he was in his fellowship. Don't expect a traditional marriage I am sorry for your story. He has never said a disparaging word about his mother.