When those are not around or when the circumstances or the spirit indicate otherwise then prayer is more than enough. I volunteer every week, I put others before myself, etc. While Scientology is way worse hopefully the parallels will get her thinking. Well if she knew or ever found out, in her eyes you'll be a loathsome perverted deviant in need of sex addiction counseling. You are atheist and that's not changing. Do whatever it takes to at least learn from your relationship with your Mormon crush. I've tried creating my own activities and pursuing interests but it still feels weird. Now I don't get offended when he falls asleep when I come over - in fact, he puts his head in my lap and I run my hands through his hair until he falls asleep. It's a tricky business, but oh so worth it for the one you love. These are things your wife may consider matter-of-fact and you may be surprised by if you don't discuss them now.
Days later he simply said, "What do you want to do for your birthday. It has to do with their character. And you know what. Don't think it's just women married to male physicians who suffer.
I think you should start by having some very honest conversations. I think it was Spencer Kimball who counselled that before marriage you should keep your eyes wide open and then after marriage keep your eyes half shut. No matter what anyone says. Thought the girl and I had a future, and we did, just not with each other I'll bet there are hundreds of boyfriend converts out there. Our relationship is not perfect, not easy, but absolutely amazing. The loneliness will always be there. Yes, do sever the relationship. Better than freezing up and avoiding them altogether.
I am so sorry for the pain you are going through. For every lesson and sermon preached about loving everyone, there are one or two lessons on avoiding outsiders because they will destroy your eternity. Good luck with her, and good life to you. On the other hand lol handshe may fall into tearing guilt and leave you immediately. We have 2 school age children. For whatever reason, none of them ever seemed that interested in me I freely admit this could have been cluelessness on my partand so never turned serious. Not one little bit. Reconciling this with the doctrine of temple marriage is trickier. He really was awful to women and should've come with a warning sticker.