The two of you can get married in the temple and live together forever for eternity. He sealed my husband and I on our wedding day. Now I feel sadness for losing out because of fear, and a cult mindset.
I was definitely taking the "Tough love" approach because I've read countless times on this and other boards, how Mormons claimed that they were cool with their SO not being Mormon, and that they weren't, themselves, orthodox. Tips Mormon girls are much like other girls their age, in that they want guys to respect them and treat them well. Do you really love him, honey. I can understand his desire to spend time together to reconnect, but right now it really isn't there. I'll tell her that we are strictly friends for now on. A good doctor must be willing to sacrifice his own needs for the good of his patient and as his wife, you sacrifice as well. Do what feels right. However, now that the student loans are paid off and we have a nice fancy custom home, he has decided to devote his money and time to purchasing and using new bikes road and mtnskis downhill and tele and the list goes on. It works, though, because I know that his beliefs have great worth. Better than freezing up and avoiding them altogether.
As a budding feminist, I left the church in my teens. There is no moral issue here. We attempted to date back when I was in undergrad and he was in med school, and it went nowhere -- mostly because I was young, immature, self-centered and your typical spazzy college kid at that point. I think my husband would do okay with the loneliness - just like I do.
Right now, my husband is in his third and final year of an extremely draining and stressful fellowship. To me, the core question is, is this person inclined toward self transcendence are the inclined, desirous, self aware enough to be selfless. They are not God. It gets better towards the later part of the whole deal, but it's always going to be kind of crazy busy. And most of those end up with both people losing their faith or a divorce. An important is doing this together. You should expect that this will define your relationship with her. Life is suddenly wonderful, and you catch yourself smiling, humming, and happy all the time.