I think you need to sit down and have a conversation with him about all of this, because that's truly the only way to get to the bottom of it and make a decision for yourself. Alot of TBM women won't even consider dating non members. From her summary, he just did not understand her dilemma at all. Again, though the evolving times may have brought about a relaxation in this rule, it is still followed by many youngsters. As a parent, we hope our children will make life choices that will give them the greatest chance of happiness. After skimming a lot of these comments it seems like many people have found that the most effective way of coping with their relationship with a doctor is to have low expectations or acknowledge that they will always be second. My new book is called, "Looking For: If he doesn't have time to pursue a relationship, and a medical resident usually doesn't, he shouldn't have done that. I don't want to give up as I think it is still the stress of the exams that is motivating her response and that given time, we could work things out and have a very special and loving relationship. All he says is that it wouldn't change the amount of time that he works. You can also attend their singles conferences, or participate in social activities organized by the Church.
Sorry, you can't reply to this topic. I just wanted to tell you that I am grateful for your words!. December 19, OK, you're off the hook, mine was in the 70's too, but I hadn't been to CA by then. This was hugely disappointing for him and created some very tense times. Without going into too much personal detail, I received a very real, strong prompting that I should marry this girl.
My husband and I have been together since we were year-olds at university trying to figure out where we stood with the faiths we had grown up in. Save her and yourself more pain by ending it before you fall in love. If it's the latter then you may need to be more direct and take initiative. She's willing to talk about anything I find directly on LDS. That is the million dollar question. You may look on here and see all of us, but a lot of us got out much much older. There is NO guarantee that marrying a returned missionary RM in the temple equates with love and happiness. Honestly, the thing that makes me the craziest is the missionaries. Their thinking is something like this. It's the sort of super dismissive "all women are the same" attitude that I learned in church and left to get away from.
I was lucky with my TBM. The church creates massive guilt and shame in children and adults usually through sex related shaming. The religion rather, and more importantly, the church itself is integral to most mormons' identity.