For the first time in my life, at age twenty-seven, I am in a relationship that is good and loving and serious enough that I believe it may lead to marriage. Move on, but after thanksgiving. I think the LDS have been vastly over-simplifying that doctrine. Are the sacrifices you make for your partner worth it, and do you have any tips for making it work. I've supported him for 5 years, taken on that Doctor's Partner role, put my ambitions on the back burner, and it hasn't done a lick of good. When he doesn't have his patience he has his family who seem more and more to have self inflicted issues they gamble, drink and smoke which lead to health issues and bills. There are many catholic families with these three main ethnic groups within it.
Thanks so much for the links. That conversation prompted me to find and read through this sub, and there's some seriously disturbing shit here. They are taught to refrain from smoking, drinking, or experimenting with drugs. We've been dating two plus years, and we find a key is taking vacations. And some will do that. I've read some of the articles linked to by mormonessays.
Then you might want to talk about all the things her church requires. We'll have to discuss that, now that I actually know some things about some things. The misogyny is deep in the Mormon church.
When you are a man married to a female doctor. My kids have run as far away from medicine as possible in terms of a career and my daughter only dates people who have balance in their lives. If you are a believer and are willing to go, then well and good. I just happened upon your blog I'm a doctor's wife as well - rural family medicine and I just wanted to agree with you that "have no expectations" is awesome advice. This girl is also a real person, not a caricature of a cult member, and even if the ultimate result is a breakup, she deserves to be treated with compassion and respect. BYU was once the perfect place to find a great young woman and get married. If so, then step away from the internet and go look him in the eyes and take his hands and start asking him all the questions you asked me. Be prepared for divorce. It will be up to you, her man, to support the positive expectations. It sounds like you unfortunately ran into this guy at the wrong point in life.