Any advice from people who have gone through this would be awesome. Sexuality is the enemy of romance, and romance is amazing. I thought about those deeply spiritual moments I had had in life and how special they were to me. There have been times in my marriage where I have been frustrated and angry by his lack of change.
I've never understood that bit of the LDS culture. I was thinking the same thing when I read this. But on saying that I do empathise with you all and a Doctor is very challenging and I know my Dad was always working and it is a demanding job for their spouses to live their lives but hey nothing at the top is ever easy. Also, we haven't practiced polygamy for over years. The history of racism and violence is upsetting. I adored seeing him when I could planned good home made meals and always sent him off the next night with a special packed lunch. Dating in your teenage years will help you learn the kinds of things you value in another person. I don't think you necessarily need to cut ties with her. If your relationship is moving forward, or she suggests doing something more expensive, it is not inappropriate for her to help pay as well. I miss him so much.
It is not something that should be taken lightly. You aren't engaged or married or anything, you can't just know that she won't see the light and remain crazy Mormon forever. She might want to follow the 'virgin until marriage' part, or she may personally decide to forego following that in secret. I know from my own experience that God has the answers and that He speaks to those individuals who humbly seek Him. They have money for nannies, trips, vacation homes, their children go to the finest colleges, etc.
Somewhere down the road, you will find another girl who will be a much better match for you. Even after being in a relationship I have to take all the decision alone. Thanks for sharing your story. Every bishop, new set of missionaries, home teacher, etc. I get that a lot to people saying 'be happy you married a doctor' 'u will have a glamorous wonderful life' they would not get it unless they be one-that is being a docs wife, the loneliness is the worst especially when your newly wedded and 2nd month of ur marriage he has to go for his night calls in dec, which includes our first christmas: I thought I was the only one who barely gets communication throughout the day, not married but am dating a surgeon and have for 6 years.