It's almost like I feel as though I have to watch what I say at all times especially when he has residents calling him for various things, might be on call that night, and has to be at the OR by 5: When I myself was interning in my profession, the girl I interned with had married her boyfriend who is also a specialist earlier that year. It really helped to make me feel better. It's definitely not an easy life. But he's got to know the aggravation and pain that he likely will face. I am trying to figure out how to go on in life and discover myself again. I'm surprised you don't seem to know how long his residency will last. If you have dated a doctor or other abnormally busy person or are in the medical profession yourself that would be particularly helpful, but I'll gladly take any words of wisdom. What about the folks at church. Most likely, the relationship isn't going to survive your differences in belief.
Of course I have time for my SOs, of course I give of myself to them. The church can be a very cruel place for single people. Marriage is simply not an option to me there. You should ask yourself if you want to have input on the way your children are raised.
It is not easy for a nonmember spouse to understand a three hour worship block plus callings etc. How convenient for him. My doctor husband and I have been married for 2 and a half years. The two of you can get married in the temple and live together forever for eternity. Sometimes it's easy to forget all the wonderful times we had together before he got into med school.
Is it wrong that I feel guilty?. If you like your regular fix of alcohol or nicotine, then dating a Mormon probably isn't a good idea. Somehow I never believed any of that; I wanted a career and a small family and never believed religion was a way to identify good character. Now that my boyfriend and I are beginning to talk about a future together, though, I realize that I need to consider this question of marrying outside of the church very carefully. You might want to determine your level of willingness to put up with his demanding work schedule and to communicate with him about your needs and concerns. Honestly, the thing that makes me the craziest is the missionaries. Do you really want to wait two years to enjoy sex, fun, happiness, intimacy with someone. And of course, everyone has a different experience. My wife and her family are a good example of this. It sucks but ultimately what Mormonism does to people is it makes them value adherence to church more than their relationships with people.