These are things your wife may consider matter-of-fact and you may be surprised by if you don't discuss them now. Also, if you have girls, you must realize that they are second class citizens in the church and the church will reinforce this idea. If you are dating a Mormon girl, then always wear a good shirt, jeans or pants, and avoid T-shirts with offensive wording or graphics. I would do it all over again and thank my lucky stars that I found this man, that he loves, and that I love him. I love him so much, but it's torture spending so much time without him. Unfortunately, this has led to a culture of Mormon girls who are absolutely obsessed with Disney and even as adults dream of being Disney princesses.
If you think your girlfriend's resistance to being exposed to anything critical of Mormonism sounds cult-like, you are right. Honestly, you are probably the only person who she has ever known to outwardly label themselves an atheist. I would have been deeply insulted if anyone talked about me the way people are talking about this girl He needs to tell her there is a no chance he will convert, that he is not comfortable with his children being raised Mormon if he isn'tthat she cannot ever expect a temple marriage with him. As a man who married a non-Mormon woman, my story has a slightly different view point, but it comes down to essentially the same principles. And can you talk about hard things together. I know it will get better over time.
God roots for both our teamsвthe hopeful screw-ups and the straights. When you make the best choice for you, blessings will follow. She still lives in her hometown though. Marriage is hard, period. Find someone who isn't part of a cult. This I knew before we married and accepted. If she can't put you before her religion then you need to walk away. Leave her so you can both find people that youre more suited for. My faith, while less orthodox, has certainly matured.
I was off travelling the world when I met and fell madly in love with a deployed Marine. I feel like this pressure of finding a residency has already taken a toll in our relationship and somewhat "controlled" us for so long that I am already so tired of it. And sometimes I think we equate easiness with happiness. Both independent and had the same life goals, family life plans etc. If you do attend parties like that, expect her to drink 7-Up and volunteer as the designated driver, and to be completely repulsed if you drink too much. But he does want to get married to and to have kids. We still have great sex 3 or 4 times a week and, no, he doesn't use Viagra, Ciasis, etc. He has let me be a stay-at-home mother while trying to launch my own business and has offered love and support every step of the way.