That was hard on my relationship and I had to give up on my dream of being a computer programmer. There are other issues at play here that are my husband's personal history and that he is now trying to come to grips with, and I have hope that we can put our marriage and our family back together-but the job marches on, relentlessly, and there is no time allotted for personal healing. The first key question to as is: If the answer is yes then the relationship sounds like it's doomed.
Do you see yourself being with him for many years. But realistically, if she is not open minded enough to even listen to someone who has a contrasting view of the church - how will she not continually discount you and your lack of beliefs. Over the years, it would have felt increasingly burdensome to accommodate practices that seemed to me like superstition. I would leave him note reminding him how important his work was.
From reading the above posts from previous posters, please keep in mind that while it helps to read and learn from each others' experiences as we are all in the same boat -- we must also make the distinction between someone's occupation and their personality or character. Yes; I suppose if each of us believe the other is brainwashed, there's going to be major problems later on. After deep soul searching, I decided to stop working and be a stay at home mom. If she can't put you before her religion then you need to walk away. It is how she is programmed and it is a fundamental tenant of the religion. He says he has put-in a lot of his life into his profession and his career is very important to him. He was the best decision I have ever made in my life, hands down. Don't expect a traditional marriage I am sorry for your story.
I have to day that I totally agree!. I don't think you "dodged a bullet" but I do think new residents change Other wives told me my husband would "come back" but we are still in the training so I can't tell you whether that is completely true or not. The yard stick he uses to assess what is "normal" is so warped that he has lost touch with what a happy life could look like he often berates himself for feeling so miserable given how "easy" his schedule is at just 65 hours a week, not like surgery or some other 80 hour a week speciality. Unconditional love, excellent communication, and unwavering support. And you seem like a good person. It is hard work. In the endвthe very endвGod loves my husband even more than I love him. I just started dating this guy and he is not only in the army, but a doctor. There is no way this will work out. Our relationship is not perfect, not easy, but absolutely amazing.