I would do it all over again and thank my lucky stars that I found this man, that he loves, and that I love him. Listen, you are in a bad situation and it just has not come to a head yet. I had this issue with my husband and I had to straight out tell him what I needed because he had no clue. I expected to find this sisterhood of wives that would comfort, uplift, and laugh with one another. About the time I was ready to return for my doctorate a chronic illness hit.
As time has gone by I realized that the opinons of others is not important to me and oddly enough those who did not originally approve have had their hearts and minds changed by the love my husband shows me, our daughter, and the members of my family. It is not the norm. I was skeptical whether this would work with Mormon girlsв sheltered girls who would never step inside a dance club or be wooed by pickup artists. I love how this applies to ALL marriages. It means that before anything else, you have to be clear in saying that you want to date a Mormon girl. Until you can believe someone else's beliefs are reasonable, you will not be able to treat them with the respect they deserve. She is now happy with her uber-Mormon boyfriend and I am happily dating other people as well. It is almost impossible for me to hold my tears back. That being said, we have built something beautiful and good, have modeled loving responsibility and accountability to our kids, and I am certain I am with the man God chose for me.
He knows that is a possibility. Their thinking is something like this. I only know him as the most loving, caring, and sincere man I have ever met. It seems to me like you are walking into a relationship where there is a significant disconnect from the start. People respect him more and belittle him less He seems just a little bit happier - which makes a difference at home. Should one belief system or lack of one take priority and why. Maybe you will win.
I hope you can make this work out. If your heart longs for children, a family and love- why should you stop yourself holding out for some mystical Mormon man to swoop you off your feet. She wants the captain of a ship who can direct all aspects of a relationship, including spiritual direction. How could I help a non-Mormon spouse to feel like a member of my ward family when he is not a member of my church.