I am dating a great guy who happens to be a very brilliant doctor going into residency very soon. Just as secular marriages have problems, so do temple marriages. If this is the case, she definitely can be reprogrammed and awakened. Read our FAQ s. Accept yourself, and feel God accepting you, and everything else will follow. Children thrive on clarity and consistency.
The church creates massive guilt and shame in children and adults usually through sex related shaming. I'm the kind of person that believes that it is just tacky in general to break up or end things via text, but that was my only option. I completely relate to all you've written; many of us have come to see Mormonism for what it is, and the severe damage it does to human brains. You are brave and good people and seem to be raising wonderful children who will be lights for everyone with whom they come in contact. Only you will know. However, I did not expect my role in marriage to end up what it has become. But that parent-child relationship was bound to change anyways as you become an adult. Vh65, your marriage is a black swan. By the way the dog is a corgie. Two very simple things that require so much effort and understanding.
But from what you said, this girl doesn't sound like she is going to be content to have a marriage for time only. I am coming to the belief that the quality individuals in medicine are the self and family sacrificing ones, truly dedicated to their profession. I thought she would grow out of it.
The point made was that a parallel can be drawn between interfaith and interracial marriages. I would not have wanted to be dismissed as crazy and unworthy of attention when I was still a member, because it wouldn't have been true. I guess I can understand that because his door needs to be locked from the outside and it would be too soon in our relationship to give me a key.