She seems to be ok with that, and wants to continue our relationship, and also talks about wanting marriage and children, and raising those children to be mormon like her even if I'm not religious. The sad part is that he does not understand what I go through or if I complain or try to make him understand about what's going on at home or my feelings. There is much that needs to change and many hearts to educate but if we doubt some of the fundamentals then why not all of them. It is not easy for a nonmember spouse to understand a three hour worship block plus callings etc.
Pretty alarming how unsophisticated so many presumably well-educated people's expectations are of marriage. If your spouse thinks 8 is too young to get baptized, are you all right with waiting until they are older. Also, if you have girls, you must realize that they are second class citizens in the church and the church will reinforce this idea. I don't think you should abandon the relationship just because she is lds. I am struggling to find an answer to this question for several reasons. My wife told me she does not want to know if the church is false, so I don't pressure her. I have been with him through medical school and residency for internal medicine, which was tough, but manageable. Spending a lifetime single is not something most people would choose to do, but fear of being forever single should never be a deciding factor in entering a marriage, lest serious problems go unaddressed before serious commitments are made. I hate to say it, but I don't see this ending well. Understand that it's their belief, and make plans for any of the other 6 days instead.
Last year I trained for and ran a marathon, which was a pretty good distraction, but with the move recently and work being quieter than usual I'm finding it tougher than I have before. I am so in need of a support group. I agree she should be able to watch a movie or do her own research. I remember one time I did just that with a group of friends and someone saying, "Oh you have it so rough. I've heard way too many stories of people breaking up with amazing people and they end up alone or in a less happy relationship. I recommend that talk. Without going into too much personal detail, I received a very real, strong prompting that I should marry this girl. Her attempts to convert you will get stronger and stronger, if you make it clear to her that you will not under any circumstances convert, she'll bounce.
In the meantime, she will probably view you as being less than a Mormon man who is a faithful priesthood holder. In each case, you should also consider how this will affect your families. She asked me the other night how it's possible for me to be such a good person when I don't believe in god. There is no such thing as a perfect Mormon family- regardless of whether the parents are sealed or not. I don't know why the system allows this type of treatment Not only do the residents feel like they "should" be giving every single bit of their energy, intellect, passion, soul to their residency programs, but they are told by their program directors, attendings and everyone else around them that they "must". As these are probably the two most important things to you, it will most likely, be a very difficult decisionвfollow your heart and the spirit. Let me say this so you can get an idea of just how crazy and how much your girl friend is into the Mormon religion: These are known as "garments".