There will be pressure to go to church, marry in the temple, Yada Yada You will want to make sure you're ready to battle this for years, maybe a lifetime. He was lonely, as was she. As a community, we're not set up for screening each funding request [more]. You should be fine as long as you stick to the lines you have laid out. She will introduce you to the church.
How do you handle the ocd behavior. If everything she is taught is correct and the Mormon church is "true" she should be able to research any anti-Mormon books or movies and prove their criticisms are lies. But, if ever were there were a time to be overly cautious it's with this topic. Some say, they love wearing it, it gives them "protection from evil". I let people assume what they will. I work full time as well and have supported him throughout med school.
Is your mind made up and you want justifying support. Today, I actually feel like I might literally go insane. We had lots of sex and fun. My beliefs have changed several times in my life, but not those things, so my interfaith marriage has lasted 25 years. I had a single mom friend who only had her kids every other week and she was treated with kid gloves. The most important thing is an open dialogue, as you say, and utmost respect for the other person.
I find myself oscillating between empathy, pity, and rage, but lately, it's been mostly rage. I had a lot of things going on in my personal life as well, so maybe a relationship wouldn't have worked regardless. I have a tendency to be overly sensative emotionally and the trauma of being forced to choose between someone I love and want to spend the rest of my with and Eternal Mormon Celestial Salvation caused me extensive emotional damage that I have struggled with ever since. You knew exactly what you signed up for when you married a doctor. Some Mormon girls succumb to worldly laziness.