You'll be richly rewarded. I think the secret to a successful marriage and a successful family is to respect each other's space and to enjoy all the good times no matter how trivial they are and to foucs on the positive aspects of the marriage an family life. I completely relate to all you've written; many of us have come to see Mormonism for what it is, and the severe damage it does to human brains. Some day he hopes to make it to Romania and settle down. Because what are Mormons about. In many ways, you yield some authority to the church. You just need to figure out where your girlfriend is. But no one can move on to one of the 3 Kingdoms until they accept Christ and totally repent. If you marry her, you're marrying into a cult, a mild cult as far as cults go, but a cult nonetheless.
So it will just be for this life that it may be hard to have a non-believing spouse. In my experience, life-long member, many Mormons have difficulty thinking outside the box, and putting forth effort to inclue and love. Good to see that I'm not alone. My parents met when my mom was in 8th grade and married when she was I think my sister married fastest and knew her husband at least 18 months, dating for at least half that. It just gets so lonely you invariably commission yourself a single parent. I have to day that I totally agree!. So that may be the end of it there.
I've told her that but maybe she doesn't believe me. I agree with Rachel- this is not what I signed up for. You will have to bring her down to reality. By all means, I encourage you to try having those discussions and to make a mental note of when you would choose to walk away instead. Anything she learned about mormonsim, she wanted to learn on her own. If it is even possible, would it strengthen or weaken their ability to develop a personal relationship with their Heavenly Father. Talk about issues with Jehovah's Witnesses etc. As for having children, expect to be a single parent.
I have seen love prevail over beliefs. I think it might be worth trying. But I was unusual in that I never really wanted to convert my husband I was worried I'd have to divorce him if he turned true Mormon and he didn't need me to believe way he does.