And after dating a few months we both knew we wanted to get married. Well, there were other circumstances that made it especially unique and One thing in your favor is the fact that she is in her late 20s by Mormon standards she is already an old maidhopefully she and her family will just want her to have love and not put the pressure on converting you, but there are countless stories of dudes getting dumped on here because ultimately they chose the church. December 10, at 7: December 10, at December 11, at 6: December 20, at 6: December 10, at 2: December 14, at March 1, at March 8, at 1: March 7, at December 10, at 8: Having dealt with a similar issue all of last week I have a couple things to say. She might want to follow the 'virgin until marriage' part, or she may personally decide to forego following that in secret. Personally, I like to have my own identity and not be defined by my attachment to Dr. I would never change my decision to marry him.
She is going on a mission which means she is heavily invested in performing according to the cultural expectations. Mormon girls are the best, and you are pretty lucky. Hi, I'm so glad to be able to enter this forum. The importance of modesty. Reconciling this with the doctrine of temple marriage is trickier. If you are married to your best friend, then love him unconditionally, share the struggles, accept the sacrifices and know that if he could, he would rather be with you than with a sick or dying patient. I let her know it's not healthy to expect someone else to change - we can only control ourselves and not others. I think more than anything, the thing that gets me is this feeling of being marginalized in his life. It also seems like he's into it based on how he acts around me and the things he says.
Good luck to you and your boyfriend. I believe that there will be a lot more mercy than justice being dished out at the judgment. Life After Mormonism Chat. Signs of an Affair. She will be surprised that a non-Mormon holds the same values she does and respect you. The history of racism and violence is upsetting. This is something that's very important to her, and it's difficult to be married to someone who doesn't share the same values. Why would you behave any different now.
If she won't reason with your investigation of the church, nope on out and go on your merry way. I keep the positive thought that it will get better. If you have dated a doctor or other abnormally busy person or are in the medical profession yourself that would be particularly helpful, but I'll gladly take any words of wisdom. Whether you like it or not, you are both married to medicine.