To others making this consideration, I would certainly suggest that you converse with your Father in Heaven about this important choice. Thanks for letting us know. It did not go well. I prayed about whether to marry this man, and I felt and still feel strongly that it was right for me.
She will probably feel persecuted and attacked if you try. Do you think that is too draining too. If my husband and I had been dating during any of this, it would not have lasted long a few weeks maximum. Yes, worse than intern year. I believe in temple marriage, and in the importance of those covenants. If I were you, I would just nope out of it and move on.
It certainly isn't easy. But what does it really mean to be a patriarch, to lead your tribe. If you talk to him about it, and he cares about your relationship enough, the two of you will probably be able to find something that works for both of you. Marriage offers a chance to develop generosity of spirit and a willingness to be improved by the one we love, no matter what faith tradition he or she may claim. Mormonism, like many extreme religions, often stunts the growth of its members. Let me say this so you can get an idea of just how crazy and how much your girl friend is into the Mormon religion: These are known as "garments". Trust Building Exercises for Couples. As such, it tends to attract the young and insecure. Be open and talk about your ideals. I wish you all well on your recovery from this particularly vile church.
For girls, being the right age for marriage usually means graduating high school, if not later. She's told me the church is one of the most important things to her, but from what I've researched already there's no way I would subject my future children to this culture. I could go on, but this should give you the idea. I intend to spend some quality time in the temple, with my bishop, and with close family and friends as I think and pray my way through this decision, but I would also value your insights into this. That response made her very happy. There's a reason so many Utahns are on anti depressants and anti anxiety meds. I got to thinking about how I and others in my ward might react if a same sex couple attended church and how those views might WILL, fingers crossed change over the next decade. This is wonderful and in accordance with the desires of a loving Father in Heaven, but it can turn a marriage on its ear, if the spouse is unprepared. When the weather is nice outside, I crave for a walk with my husband, but have to tell myself he is busy saving lives. It's a less common occurrence, but it happens.