He has spent years building his practice and is a busy, highly successful pediatric surgeon who is compassionate and respected by everybody, but I think by nature, it is hard for him to be empathetic or to relate to more personal issues. I'm married an interventional cardiologist; and I wish I only knew 5 years ago before she started her fellowship what the heck I was signing up for. This is something that's very important to her, and it's difficult to be married to someone who doesn't share the same values. I'm dating a Mormon girl right now but we both understand that it is most likely isn't going to last long. Because Utah mormons are waayyy different than mormons everywhere else. Either you are just fun for now or she wants to change you. You should not be trying to be exclusive with one person, so go on dates with as many people as you can. And here's a fabulous musical explanation of how the church came to franchise it's ecclesiastical services and doctrinal instruction in a process known as correlation.
I knew a woman who married a man who converted to the church and she spent the rest of their married life telling him he was not good enough. So do you just never give anything back to SOs in terms of time or small gestures. Somehow I never believed any of that; I wanted a career and a small family and never believed religion was a way to identify good character. I learned how truly very Mormon I really am, to the deepest part of my soul. How else could you go through 8 years of schooling and 3 years of residency without losing your mind. If you do manage to break her away from the church, her family will be there to continue sowing doubt. The Mormon youth must not date before Aside from that, the Church also discourages them from getting into a serious relationship before they consider getting married.
I have been dating a surgeon and we are thinking about marriage. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent the position of the Church. When I was a teen, my first boyfriend was a convert and people would comment on that instead of how nice he was to me. She may be beautiful, friendly, and sincere. Is it really worth it to give up what I want out of a relationship because its hard to balance studying which I understand is stressful and being with the person who makes you happy. Its great to hear advice from those who know. I don't think you necessarily need to cut ties with her.
Trust me, though--you will. While it's true that Mormons are not one-dimensional and completely predictable, the odds of a successful relationship, given the OP's description of his girlfriend, are slim. Mormons can be pretty crazy without it. He had no idea what he was getting himself into. Honestly, unless you want to convert and: And, if she does claim those things don't matter, be prepared to find out how much they really do after you've married her. Realize that your Dr spouse isn't intentionally wanting to make you feel lonely or depressed, and they most likely feel as isolated by their work as you do. If you have any questions about Mormonism doctrine or things or other angles on what she says feel free to message me.