But is it the path that will make you the happiest. We keep "waiting" for it to get easier, and every year it just doesn't. Propagandists in the media throw around the word patriarchy as if it is synonymous with anything male. I think it was Spencer Kimball who counselled that before marriage you should keep your eyes wide open and then after marriage keep your eyes half shut. Pray about it and follow your heart. If it is a good honest relationship with two well-meaning people, you need to put work into it. So if you are caffeine junky, be sure that you can adjust to and accept your date's beliefs before going on a date. If this happens, it might click something in her mind that says that what she experienced was pleasurable and she would like to have it again.
We lived about miles apart for the first 2 years. I know many of you understand how Im feeling and a lot of you have been there for many years already. Today, at my ward sacrament meeting, in the back section of the chapel where I was sitting, all the women except one were Mormon wives in interfaith families. He often tells me how happy he is to return to a clean home, warm meal, and me in the doorway-and I think that makes residency all the more bearable for him. She drove an old Dodge Neon during her cash-strapped residency and fellowship.
She will try to convert you. I'm not so sure. I am a non Mormon. Our relationship is not perfect, not easy, but absolutely amazing. And if you can make it to the Tree of Life and still be with your partner, guess what.