Yes have moved away from family at 7 months pregnant to knowing no-one and starting from scratch and having no support network especially from husband who couldn't wait to get away and had the cheek to say he dreaded coming home some nights, poor him, I dreaded being home most days. Finally, it is a very tight-knit community and despite efforts to insulate you from conversion-minded missionaries, you will be exposed to a lot of people that think, like this woman does, that atheists are without a moral compass. Where do you find Mormon girls. I love him more than life, He says the hours will get better after residency I really hope so. You may look on here and see all of us, but a lot of us got out much much older. I feel like I make a lot of sacrifices to see him and try to make it as convenient as possible for him, which means planning ahead and changing my schedule around sometimes.
Adore them and make them feel loved and appreciated. I know a guy who had a hobby of corrupting Mormon girls he was abused by his TBM parentsand I'm told you're both right. Like it was mentioned above, see how she deals some of the issues now and if she can't handle it, it might be better to find someone else. Don't expect this to be like the others. Play with fire if you don't fear getting burned. He should tell her that he will never convert, and that if she will not be happy unless he does, the relationship should end. So you made a wise decision. I just happened upon your blog I'm a doctor's wife as well - rural family medicine and I just wanted to agree with you that "have no expectations" is awesome advice.
Otherwise her family will likely feel incomplete to her. Our first Christmas married I want you all to know that you are loved and appreciated. God works by small and simple means to bring about His great and eternal purposes. Let her go right now then. It's the sort of super dismissive "all women are the same" attitude that I learned in church and left to get away from. It'll reinforce the wisdom of running from this disaster in the making.
The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent the position of the Church. This is how I felt when I married my exmo husband. That conversation prompted me to find and read through this sub, and there's some seriously disturbing shit here. The church creates massive guilt and shame in children and adults usually through sex related shaming. With his compartmentalized mind, if I walk away, he will close that door and move on. I am the same good faithful woman I always was, just on a different path than I ever expected, one full of insights and blessings I never knew could exist.