I would also say that this is the most stressful point in their lives. Soon you'll feel better, because you're not alone. No respect for people's time or relationships. During those years, I think we had about 5 dinner dates. Many symptoms of pain and discomfort can only be diagnosed with tests at the hospital. But remember that it is also your wife's choice to obey or disobey, and that you have no authority over her as a person, either. Real love just happens. The Mormon girl has the light of Christ shining through her, and you were drawn in. Look up all the threads of people who are dealing with their true believing spouses -- the guilt, the silence, the bad communication, the hostage-taking.
I have no idea if he stayed. There are over promises in the Bible. Is there even any sex at all in this fantasy. I can completely relate to all the other doctor' s wives feelings and life experiences. BYU was once the perfect place to find a great young woman and get married. He actually wanted them to be active in a religion and thought this was a good idea.
While it's true that Mormons are not one-dimensional and completely predictable, the odds of a successful relationship, given the OP's description of his girlfriend, are slim. In my view, baptism at 8 is just a variation on infant baptism. Good communication, love, support and understanding are the things you should consider. I am particularly tied to an area because of family and friends and he was set on selecting a list that was best suited for his career, not me. I wish you the best. You;ll get the answer you needвprayers and blessings for you both. My husband is finishing up residency and is never around. I was thinking the same thing when I read this. Or am I just being a pushover and need to demand a little more if he wants to keep seeing me.
Loneliness seems to be a part of being a wife of a doc in training, and at times all I can think of is simply getting over a day at a time. At best they just try to include you in the community, and at worst you are constantly told that you'll be welcome "when you're ready. So far I have found it is a day to day thing. Also, love how you describe how God has our backs and we can actually act on the notion of things hoped for that are not seen instead of the quaint pseudo idea that all things are known in advance, step by step, and lead to mortal and eternal bliss. If you try to deconvert her I suggest indirectly at first.