I think the most important thing is to bring up the issues as questions rather than points as why she's wrong. The big one is that under Mormon theology both of you must be believing, fully active members to live together in the afterlife. And sometimes I think we equate easiness with happiness. There is NO guarantee that marrying a returned missionary RM in the temple equates with love and happiness. Before I met my husband I had dated quite a few members and some relationships were quite serious but I never felt right about it. Home no title About Contact. Then a few months later he was not given time off for our daughter's pre-school graduation which was a big deal at the school especially since the school was closing. I have had to compromise more often than I would have liked.
I am very independent and have my own life my own career and do not need my partner to be with me all the time. This does not mean that you cannot do those things, but remember that she will not be able to do them with you. We are still struggling to put our life back together for the sake of our marriage and our 3 boys, but it is a difficult path. I love my job very much and it has give me many joys, but stimultaneus many hours apart from my children, my husband and my mother when there is a need. Even if you are looking towards marriage, it can be better to hold off on more serious activities until a couple of dates to make sure you both feel the relationship is moving in the right direction. That deal with polygamy explained. But my son will be 14 then and I will feel that I've already done the work of raising a child. Thank you so much for your comment.
You will have to bring her down to reality. We need to believe fully and then we make choices, not the other way around. She will want her kids blessed, baptized, taking temple trips to baptize for the dead, hold the priesthood, a bishop will ask you sons and daughters if they masterbate and punish them if they do, etc.
Meanwhile, he'll be adored and revered and flirted with by divorced nurses who would jump in the sack with him at a moment's notice. I will keep you posted and thanks again for your thoughtful response I really appreciate it. At least I know that there are people who truly understand the medical life. I'm a Mormon girl in love with an amazing non-Mormon man. So I am getting myself ready. You'll have to get use to the running late, the tire man, weeks without communication, dinner alone, and unanswered texts and phone calls.