I don't pity you at all. Now I feel like a stepford wife. I am a 20 year old premed student and have been in a relationship for three years. I prayed about whether to marry this man, and I felt and still feel strongly that it was right for me. It seems like a minor point, but I have noticed that every Mormon girl who disobeys the Mormon direction to avoid coffee has something majorly wrong with her. Anyways, after I was temporarily "crazy" during my masters degree studies, my husband and I began reading the book: I think we had been too busy to invest in our relationship, and in the book were reminded of how much we needed to work for our relationship. I like to think that what you said really resonated with her. She will want her kids blessed, baptized, taking temple trips to baptize for the dead, hold the priesthood, a bishop will ask you sons and daughters if they masterbate and punish them if they do, etc. There will always be difference between spouses.
My husband did his best to do the same though a medical career makes it a challenge. As for me, I recall spending a lot of Sundays at sporting events with my dad. I just wanted to let SN and AD know that, if you decide to choose this path, you are not alone. IF she becomes an Atheist free thinker like you then consider keeping her. I felt insane and crazy for being upset and considered just leaving ASAP. This happened to me, and it took me forever to get out of the cult. An important is doing this together. But wait a minute.
Good luck and best wishes as you head back out into the dating pool. It takes an incredible amount of self discipline to first find and then be able to maintain a balance between life and medicine. You know what the official line of the church is, and what bishops and stake presidents are likely to say. I'm surprised this thread is still getting replies.