If it is a good honest relationship with two well-meaning people, you need to put work into it. If you marry him, you are committing to accepting him without the church and all that this entails. On the other hand, if you believe God is bigger than we can imagine, and is not constrained by religious dogma, you have as good a chance as any at a happy, thriving relationship. All that being said, no one can tell you what is right for you except Heavenly Father. This means that she will probably be dating others at the same time as you. Now a basic overview of the gospel. Good luck with her, and good life to you. I I must also say that some of them truly do have affairs even wit the best of spouses. Maybe things would be have different if I had been older or if I had not been so fragile.
However, I will have a talk with him about where things are going between us. The church really needs to tailor to more partial LDS families, imho. I'm not trying to be mean, just very clear. I don't think we could have a real conversation about those points either. Make sure the girl you like is already 16 years old.
I've supported him for 5 years, taken on that Doctor's Partner role, put my ambitions on the back burner, and it hasn't done a lick of good. She's told me the church is one of the most important things to her, but from what I've researched already there's no way I would subject my future children to this culture. Trust Building Exercises for Couples. Thank you for your blog. Reading some of the post are making scared of what to expect. I am thinking about him pretty much all the time. I decided that if the church taught the general principle that couples should be married in the temple and that was not possible for me if I married this girlthen I should see if my choice would be an exception to the rule. If I'm focused on something like reading a textbook, or working on some problem then I might still think of him vaguely but I'm not going to whip out my phone or go and see himI'm busy. I walk on egg shells as well and feel like I am merely a maid, cook, nanny, etc I work to focus on the positive but the days are ing and lonely.
But it turns out I need to understand him more than I should be understood Take care of him more than I should be taken cared of. I'm not saying you shouldn't pursue the relationship, but I'd only recommend marrying her if she leaves the church because she discovers it's not true. A friend of ours who is going to grad school at Duke started complaining to me about how he had to work while Dr. I also think that if marriage outside the covenant is a sin, it is not so grave as to be unforgivable. It would put him in a position of feeling less and being looked down on. I know that time spent together even when we're both just sleeping is valuable.