The church creates massive guilt and shame in children and adults usually through sex related shaming. The ones who already had concerns start questioning. My dad was in the bishopric for most of my childhood, and I was never the person you describe here. I asked, he refused. Once she realizes you won't join and she can't get married in the temple, then I suspect everything will be over. I have been understanding of the demands of his career for many years, but I have come to realized that I'm not happy living this way. I think you should start by having some very honest conversations.
She was a mormon and he finally joined the church at For 40 years there was a disconnect and she really viewed him as a lesser person cause he wasn't a member. God brought the two of us together, and we are truly in love. Have those candid conversations with HIM, ponder, and listen closely for the guidance of the Holy Ghost. I am also certain that there are callings and opportunities that I would have had, were I married to a faithful LDS woman, that I have missed. There's no way a TBM is dating you if she knows about your Lucifer kick. Reading your messages I don't feel bad about being in the shadow of his career. Point is, I can push myself to my extreme physical ends and he has barely broken a sweat. I learned that going out and having fun with friends every single weekend was not going to be part of our lifestyle together due to time restrictions, tiredness, etc.
Certainly there are such people in the church, but there are such people in any organization, and I would challenge you to remember that the members are also individuals with thoughts, feelings and the ability to rebel in their own ways. She has to decide for herself what she believes, but you can definitely help expose her to new ideas. This could possibly be worked out with some communication; perhaps he just hasn't given it enough thought to realize how shitty it is It's very inconsiderate of him. We like each other, but I feel like giving up also at times. She hasn't submitted the paperwork yet but I have no doubt that she will do this eventually. Notify me of new comments via email. When he doesn't have his patience he has his family who seem more and more to have self inflicted issues they gamble, drink and smoke which lead to health issues and bills.
I can be part of a church family whether my spouse goes or not. I feel pretty awful about that whole thing. Like you I grew up with and taught the standard LDS beliefs about temple marriage, celestial kingdom, etc. There is much that needs to change and many hearts to educate but if we doubt some of the fundamentals then why not all of them. God roots for both our teamsвthe hopeful screw-ups and the straights. Did everything in my power to support him, whether it be financial, emotional, etc. While it's true that Mormons are not one-dimensional and completely predictable, the odds of a successful relationship, given the OP's description of his girlfriend, are slim. My mother now uses her time in saving stray dogs and helping the poor while my father is away which is everyday. They will serve as a constant reminder to her that she needs to conform- and you won't be wearing any. A lot of Mormons think that good people will obviously recognize the truthfulness of the church and quickly join.