I have no support system; you are so fortunate to have weekly dates with your DH. It's a tricky business, but oh so worth it for the one you love. If you stay together l, you are going to have to remind her of that commitment. Plan on her family trying to torpedo your relationship if you don't convert. They could fill a book, the stories I could tell. That grad student better be working that hard if he or she wants to make it. You know what the official line of the church is, and what bishops and stake presidents are likely to say. I read through a few of the LDS. There is no such thing as a perfect Mormon family- regardless of whether the parents are sealed or not. Should one belief system or lack of one take priority and why.
Love in Different Languages. If she is still Mormon and you are not, she will always secretly hope that you convert, just like you will always secretly hope she leaves the church. If she is still Mormon and you are not, she will always secretly hope that you convert, just like you will always secretly hope she leaves the church. Reason being - he wants our relationship to be spontaneous like it was before the pre-med things really "kicked in". In the end, if the guy is the keeper you say he is then go with your gut. Did my heart good. Observe the suttle loony behavior of the family during thanksgiving. I often contemplate divorcing my husband so that I could seek happiness elsewhere, or at least companionship.
If this is someone you are to marry, then the rest will take care of itself. It seems like mormons in particular are even more crazy than the majority of crazy religious people, and the manipulation and treatment of people who wish to think for themselves and challenge their beliefs is really frightening. There is a difference between "I wouldn't want to be with someone who worked these hours forever" and "I am really unhappy and will be unhappy for the next three years. While it's true that Mormons are not one-dimensional and completely predictable, the odds of a successful relationship, given the OP's description of his girlfriend, are slim. Sorry, but it just isn't worth it. I had to tell her to stop communicating with my husband she was fired but he had urged her to "keep in touch!!.
Just as secular marriages have problems, so do temple marriages. Fifty years later, not one of her 3 children, her dozen grandchildren or her numerous great grandchildren is an active member of the LDS church. And you seem like a good person. I've been in a similar situation before. Do you have a few suggestions for talking points I may want to bring up from stuff directly on LDS. You will only have a happy relationship if either you both believe in the Mormon Church, or both do not believe. She's too heavily invested in Mormonism for that.