I would probably suggest that you cut your losses now. I think you are all lucky to have such successful husbands, and I think in any marriage it is important to keep your own identity especially when you have children. He sealed my husband and I on our wedding day. Mormons who marry other Mormons in Mormon temples have a 6. The answer is, most emphatically, NO. Another simple and doable option is to go online; there are many LDS dating sites where you can sign up and meet new and interesting people. Talk about issues with Jehovah's Witnesses etc. It's a great idea to know where you stand so that you'll be prepared when this comes up in conversation. I think it might be worth trying.
Either way, if you have kids and you don't convert, she will divorce you and take your kids away from you and you will be shunned from her community. I would never change my decision to marry him. I mean, I get where it comes from but it's so ridiculous. I think in most situations its either you join or she leaves- either you, or the church.
Your email address will not be published. There are such things as perfect loving families though. But daytime game is the key. And of course, everyone has a different experience.
He also travels an inordinate amount. If you try to deconvert her I suggest indirectly at first. He may never want anything to do with Mormons or the church again. On the other hand, if you believe God is bigger than we can imagine, and is not constrained by religious dogma, you have as good a chance as any at a happy, thriving relationship.