That's in the footnotes of the polygamy in kirtland and nauvoo essay. There is the possibility that she will wise up over time, but not likely. You have to make the decision as to what you want your home and your children to have in that home. With such high standards of perfection, Mormon girls want a man who validates their efforts and confidently provides directionвa man who expects them to be beautiful. I am someone who loves quality time a lot. Being married to a doctor is a difficult thing to balance. He is also a bit too neat. You are not a worthy RM priesthood holder. Make sure everyone involved is a couple, or at least is paired with someone. Do whatever it takes to at least learn from your relationship with your Mormon crush.
I hope that makes sense. But if you are with someone who is plainly selfish or dishonest or mean, then don't let them use their occupation as an excuse. After dating a doctor for 5 years and finally realizing that what I'm dealing with is an excessive need for being put on a pedestal and adulation by mainly female colleagues of lower professional rank nurses I decided to move on. The Book of Abraham one admits it's not a translation. About ten years ago, I realized I needed to quit qualifying my excellent husband who is a better man than many Mormon men I knowI realized I needed to raise my kids to think of him as completely equal to the men they knew at church. I've read through some stuff there and it all seems pretty tame so far.
I'm so glad we waited until now instead of jumping into it right then, because I have learned a ton and the learning curve of being with a doctor is far more steep than it is to be with someone who is not married to their job. If they are, run to the altar, in or out of the temple. Ignore the busy-bodies who want to condemn your significant other. Did you know Joseph smith married the wives of other living men. It's the 1 issue in our relationship. If she doesn't care that you aren't a member now, if your relationship goes on long enough, she is going to care eventually. I can pray for and with my youngest daughter and bless her thru prayer. Mine was in California, back in the 70s. Congratulations on understanding that and avoiding problems.
But I wish he would call or text me or maybe make a sweet gesture every once in awhile. And I learned how freeing that is. Mormons have a well-known code of health, called the Word of Wisdom. I don't know if living vicariously through him will be enough. We all wondered why should would go against such a blessing. Ignore the busy-bodies who want to condemn your significant other. Best of luck, and God bless.