Both independent and had the same life goals, family life plans etc. The loneliness will always be there. It also seems like he's into it based on how he acts around me and the things he says. Other lazy Mormon girls turn feminist, many thousands of them. Great questions, and a terrific answer, Joanna. I'm not quite bitter but a tad fed up as have given up family, career, friends and started afresh x 2 again to be left alone at the other side of the planet with two young kids, moving house and setting up home with just 4 suitcases. I will have time to build a life with friends and activities and travel of which he will be a minor part. Wow, I bet medical interpreting was tough… Richard said nowadays they mostly use a phone service for interpreting. The gold is in the footnotes and sources linked from those new essays. Modest dressing is the best policy here.
The important things that keep our marriage a happy, healthy, and very loving one are the same things that keep any other marriage alive and well. The church didn't do it to her but it helped create the environment that allowed it to happen. I believe that marriage and kids is not something that can't be handled, I'm sure that once kids arrive somehow both parents will do whatever it takes to be there for the kids, however I'm also sure that you will be the one most likely to carry the weight a bit more and of course feel it too. When you are disappointed that he is called into the hospital, focus on what he is providing for someone in need. It is crucial to recognize that Mormonism has elements of belief, practice, and custom that work to make interfaith marriages especially difficult and inconvenient for both spouses. You can't provide that for her so your marriage will be defective from the outset. But he has been great till now. The best advice I can give is stay true to yourself. I told her that I want to only be friends. Be gentle with them and yourself.
She is in pretty deep and culture is a powerful force. You can't force her to change, nor should you if you could. That my heavenly father hates my decision to marry my husband. Mormons think when you die, based on if you were a good person cough cough atheists you go to spirit "paradise" where they will teach you the gospel. While I miss talking to him, I also would prefer the nonverbal stuff sometimes too. I often feel it's harder than being a single mom because the false hope is just torture. I would not have wanted to be dismissed as crazy and unworthy of attention when I was still a member, because it wouldn't have been true. Mormonism is an all-in religion.
He is always going to be the vulnerable, tired, needy one in our relationship and I don't feel like a doormat for being the one who provides that support and love to him anymore. All i want to do it cry reading all of these posts. She doesn't want to marry you. That is the shit storm on the road ahead of you. There is rarely minute that goes by where I am not thinking about him in some way.