Mormons defintely play by a different rule set. See her good qualities for what they are and see it as a good relationship to remember. Im not sure whether he isn't ready for it to get any more serious than it is or that he cannot juggle my needs and his duties. There is much that needs to change and many hearts to educate but if we doubt some of the fundamentals then why not all of them.
Buy them a bus ticket with a note and an address. Mormons think when you die, based on if you were a good person cough cough atheists you go to spirit "paradise" where they will teach you the gospel. These are nice people. It sounds like you dont even know this guy well enough to answer that question but I could be wrong. I am married to an ER doc and agree that having your own life, being independent, and not going into the relationship with any preconceived notions is what makes it work for us.
I think the LDS have been vastly over-simplifying that doctrine. If He can answer prayers to help you find missing car keys, He surely can help you understand who it is that you should marry. We met when I was 19 and have been together only the past 4 years but the love has never died. I believe that there will be a lot more mercy than justice being dished out at the judgment. You can also attend their singles conferences, or participate in social activities organized by the Church. He can relate to me and we can relate to each other which makes us strong to begin with. Take your date to a club with loud music and an open bar, or an R-rated or violent movie, and the prospects of it going well are daunting. He expects gourmet meals and an immaculate house.
Thanks so much for the links. Trust me, though--you will. But he has been great till now. Also, I'm having a really hard time understanding from these responses how anyone in the medical field ever dates or gets married. I used to be religious when I was a kid. I'm not going to break up with her because of her religion, but if we can't come to some kind of understanding about what we'd do with kids After reading every page of that CES letter I am fully aware this religion is a complete fabrication. Much more, since I am having a hard time to conceive, all adds up to my frustrations. I'd at least insist that at 12 the kids can choose to disaffiliate. They don't have any time.