We lived about miles apart for the first 2 years. We are in a predicament, because we are Jewish and it is difficult to get married between April and November during day light savings time because the sun sets much later which elongates our sabbath and makes it difficult to start a wedding at a reasonable time. I entertained without him, but with frequent phone calls, lol. I do feel some of the pressure lifting off me in that I can start doing things for myself. Does your new girlfriend have eight brothers and sisters.
You have to make the decision as to what you want your home and your children to have in that home. Otherwise you risk having an awkward mix between dating and hanging out, which can be uncomfortable for those involved. I had this issue with my husband and I had to straight out tell him what I needed because he had no clue. If she can't or won't consider that the church is a lie, you need to move on because this relationship can't go anywhere. Trust yourself, trust God and enjoy the beautiful relationship that you have.
Then the girl decided still not to date him after all. I am not going to blame him for not putting effort into it, because he probably put as much effort into it as he could. You all are strong for staying but I just don't see how it is possible long term to live like this. The point is that he should ASK her if this is true for her.
It is coming close to the time where I will be preparing for the MCAT and it is going to get a lot more hectic than it has been. She's too heavily invested in Mormonism for that. Be open-minded; accept that different people have different beliefs, and that they do not always have to match with yours. We DO live paycheck to paycheck. And once you are done with those, ask about social issues and where she stands. There are a lot of single people in the world. When she had a strict 6: If there was a disagreement, one person was supposed to submit to the other, consult a rulebook that covered almost everything, or turn to a church leader to decide for them. My next serious boyfriend was raised Methodist but considered himself non-denominational Christian and people would comment on that instead of his character. There's a ton of crazy in what we were taught all our lives.