Thanks for letting us know. NeverMo in CA Date: NeverMo in CA Wrote: I've read many of the stories here and I know the religion is toxic. I also definitely don't want her raising my future children, though, and I'll be very clear about that. Just a woman who envies the good life of being a medical doctor's wife. I am more compassionate towards people who I would have stigmatized earlier. I went in thinking "oh, we can definitely do this.
If she says that the mission was the greatest experience and best two years of her life, any chance you have at a normal long-term healthy relationship is dim unless you convert. I'd just like to add that unless you're happy being with her as a full believing Mormon, don't stick around in the hopes that she'll de-convert. If she can't put you before her religion then you need to walk away. I explained to her that from my perspective, if a religious person does something good, you can't trust them because they're doing it for the wrong reasons: When an atheist does something good, you know they're not doing it for any reason other than to help someone else. Why Mormons don't drink wine or coffee. Yes, because that is generally what is best. I chose to get married and move across the state to live with my husband and left my job, family and friends and let me tell you, it's been tremendously difficult to meet new friends in the new town. He has cheated on me and promises he won't do it anymore.
If you go yourself, you'll see - those people are good people. That said, I like to hope that love can be more powerful than belief. Some of the guests talked about the importance of helping hard core mormons to be open and accepting to ALL their brothers and sisters in the church, regardless of sexual orientation. He was the best decision I have ever made in my life, hands down. If they are, run to the altar, in or out of the temple. The importance of modesty. This is the type of doctrine that Joseph rejected and so have the leaders of the church. My experience with non members has been so much more meaningful and caring. I had this issue with my husband and I had to straight out tell him what I needed because he had no clue.
You know what the official line of the church is, and what bishops and stake presidents are likely to say. She probably doesn't even realize how crazy that is. These are things your wife may consider matter-of-fact and you may be surprised by if you don't discuss them now. I have always worked full-time and no employers ever give you any lenience.