I expected long hours and lots of call, which there are. Doesn't leave many options here though but better than constantly having them push the church on you until you either give in and convert or break up. Yes, it is bad. And there is NO taking them off to wear a sleeveless shirt, cute sun dress or regular, girl-length shorts in the summer. I have a better and fuller relationship with God because my own practice has been supplemented by additional observance. Thanks for pointing this stuff out.
That of course does not mean all eternal marriages should have been entered into or will succeed. As a budding feminist, I left the church in my teens. What she taught is different from what the essays admit happened. They require a healthy dose of flexibility, nontraditional expectations, and teamwork You aren't always gonna have a Christmas etc I can understand it would be hard to understand the cues you are getting if you have no basis for that lifestyle, but really think it over. If you can live with some auxiliary authority in your life knowing that your wife will, as necessary, bend to its will instead of yours, you'll cross those bridges as you come to them. And your future kids will be taught that you are the reason they don't have an "eternal" family. Mormons think when you die, based on if you were a good person cough cough atheists you go to spirit "paradise" where they will teach you the gospel. It was totally eye-opening.
This man basically tells you in a simple way within 6 minutes. Now that my boyfriend and I are beginning to talk about a future together, though, I realize that I need to consider this question of marrying outside of the church very carefully. Am constantly trying to be the understanding girlfriend and try to remain humble towards him at all times but It hurts a lot.
Now learn about how all of your doubts can be resolved through apologetics. Just as secular marriages have problems, so do temple marriages. The standard principles of day game apply. You never walks you'll never know. I also definitely don't want her raising my future children, though, and I'll be very clear about that. The day could come where she has to decide between her relationship with you and her church. Which even the kind ones are. This always seemed terribly wrong to me. Would she be okay with never being married in the temple.