Again, reading your blog definitely opened up my eyes to many things I was totally oblivious to. You should want to keep things new and interesting, as you would in any relationship, while still allowing your date to maintain the standards of her faith. If you can only think of alcohol and coffee for a good time, you're very disappointed. And he needs to trust his instincts if he thinks she's being dishonest.
As time has gone by I realized that the opinons of others is not important to me and oddly enough those who did not originally approve have had their hearts and minds changed by the love my husband shows me, our daughter, and the members of my family. I just started dating this guy and not only is he in the army, but also a doctor. It would be ludicrous to think otherwise. See where it goes.
Reading your messages I don't feel bad about being in the shadow of his career. If you don't want to give up, then don't. She can only get sealed to him in a Mormon temple. If you remain active, Church service is very demanding of our lives в not a Sunday thing. If you try to deconvert her I suggest indirectly at first. What goes on in those sacred temples. When I think about it now it sounds absolutely mental and there is no way I would do it again.
These exclusions, dictated by doctrine, hold the potential to create wedges between you, both immediately, and in the long term. Mormons follow the law of Chastity; they believe that the intimate act of lovemaking must be saved for after marriage. I've started to get annoyed when close friends approach him for medical guidance. I had been teetering on the fringes for quite a long time, mostly coming to Church but not really being present, because I felt like an outcast as an older single. How Soon to Call after a Date. It is amazing how different values and outlooks, interpersonal relationships can be from family to family. We are not judged only for what we do but why we do it. I'm on the same page as you.