Leave a Reply Cancel reply Your email address will not be published. She views patriarchy as a quality of God. I've been married to a doctor for 5 years now been together for 11 years and he is in his first year of Anaesthetics. You might need to trade missionary lessons for research on her part, and we can suggest less scary resources. I am married to an ER doc. I think that if these two really care about each other that she should be told to take a moment and ask herself how she would feel if they break up over this and years later she finally researches her religion.
Think of every possible scenario you can think of. But this phase isn't going to be short. My fiance is a surgeon. I felt like I was 'on call' for when he would be available to see me. Given the fact that doctors, esp surgeons, have a very busy life in US, it seems logical. Their values and the values of popular western culture are wildly disparate, which can be tough for them to navigate early in life.
Save her and yourself more pain by ending it before you fall in love. The point is that he should ASK her if this is true for her. Still, I would be interested to hear your perspective and that of your readers. Two deployments, two years away and I've reached the point where it is honestly easier when he is away. If you are both in high school, she may refuse altogether. Distance is hard, being away from family is tough, but in a way having only "each other" made our marriage so strong.
This does not mean that you cannot do those things, but remember that she will not be able to do them with you. I never pressure him to spend time with me. I also remember my father a stake president telling me the night before I got married that every single couple he had counseled through marriage struggles were not reading their scriptures or praying together every night. There will, in fact, still be churches besides our own. From her summary, he just did not understand her dilemma at all. He is absolutely, hands-down my favorite human being on the planet. I am a 40 year engineering graduate from one of best engineering colleges of the country I mention this becoz I want to stress the fact that I have a hard-earned career.