I hope so; otherwise I will have spent the best years of my life putting him thru grad school and med school. But remember that it is also your wife's choice to obey or disobey, and that you have no authority over her as a person, either. Here is a list of reasons I feel apply to my situation в some of them in retrospect:. Like you I grew up with and taught the standard LDS beliefs about temple marriage, celestial kingdom, etc.
For example, the irish, polish and the italians basically intermarried. She is instructed to have children within wedlock very soon, raise these children in a Mormon home, and devote hours each week to church activities plus Sabbath observance on Sunday. Its fascinating that in so many women are defining themselves by their MD husbands like we are in s season from Mad Men. I realize that the answers to many of these questions may be different for every family, and that we need to continue to discuss them more as a couple as we continue to think about our future. I think you should start by having some very honest conversations. Keep me posted, please. No walking your daughter down the aisle, no giving your daughter away at the alter, nothing but you standing outside the temple waiting till it's over.
I think your response is Bang on. This spotty attention from him makes me sure I want to end things sometime. Their values and the values of popular western culture are wildly disparate, which can be tough for them to navigate early in life. Did he get kicked out of the church for marrying you. If you do not have a lot of time together, make every second count.
An important is doing this together. You are a good person. She is showing a common attitude of distrust for "anti-mormon" material. Your girlfriend might, or maybe IS, going through this. Don't forget too that IF you are successful in turning the lights on and deconverting her, the family would resent you the rest of their lives. If she can accept me for who I am and what I believe, knowing that I'll never give her the eternal family she wants, then maybe we'll be ok.