Fifty years later, not one of her 3 children, her dozen grandchildren or her numerous great grandchildren is an active member of the LDS church. First of all, Mormons are people so there is a spectrum of what they actually believe on a personal level, and what beliefs are most important to them. It seems like mormons in particular are even more crazy than the majority of crazy religious people, and the manipulation and treatment of people who wish to think for themselves and challenge their beliefs is really frightening. I have given up my career to stay with the kids and lonely is most cetainly my new reality.
I told her that I want to only be friends. I had many extremely hurtful things said to me, along with an intervention hosted by my married-in-the-temple-and-divorced grandmother. By that I mean that we ought to consider simply marrying within the faith and in the temple for all the reasons that people have given. Eventually it turned into a sour argument. To sum up, they're incapable of loving anyone but themselves and the thought of a marriage counselor freaks them out as this would mean confronting their ultimate excuse of "I'm too busy". Like it was mentioned above, see how she deals some of the issues now and if she can't handle it, it might be better to find someone else. But please also know that the people who love you are hoping you make the right decision because they want you to be happy.
You've made good points about not bringing up the CES letter or anything that could be called "anti-mormon. Did this article help you. He's been in the medical field for over 16yrs and I didn't have a problem when we were dating 6yrs ago but since he proposed 2yrs ago I've been feeling very unsecured. I would never change my decision to marry him. It certainly isn't easy. Let them explore and see the many people who love Heavenly Father and serve him with all their heart.
The answer is, most emphatically, NO. They will teach the boys that masturbation is evil, which will cause most boys to lie about it and feel deep shame and guilt. If she is full on Mormon, this relationship will go one of two ways: You will convert and change your entire lifestyle and personality to conform with her expectations never to deconvert or you will face severe penalitesor you will break up because you won't convert and change everything about yourself. I'm sorry, but I don't pity you all. There are a million fish in the sea and it makes no sense to choose one with whom you are not religiously compatible. Pants-to-Church Sunday left me a bit bruised. She said we couldn't watch it because the lady who produced the doc was formerly a professor at BYU but has since left the church, so she wouldn't have anything good to say.