Hopefully this helped a little bit. I've had a super hard time finding folks who understand what I am feeling I have been married to an orthopedic surgeon for 35 years. And of course, everyone has a different experience. I'm surprised you don't seem to know how long his residency will last. There is no freedom to think, no freedom to speak your mind, and no freedom to do anything that 'the brethren' say not to. Now if your faith is not so strong to begin with, this perhaps is no big deal.
First and most importantly, I see major trust issues in your future if you both think the other is brainwashed. I eventually found out that she did not pass the exams and have requested that I don't contact her again. We'll have to discuss that, now that I actually know some things about some things. I've decided not to mention the CES letter or anything that could be considered "anti-mormon. All that being said, no one can tell you what is right for you except Heavenly Father. I have so often heard wow you married a doctor The truth is I will always come second to his job and he will never know how lonely I am for him to put me first.
Family or girlfrient or the pet. I'm not trying to be mean, just very clear. This is tough enough when the kids are babies, but when they're older - teenagers - you'll get to tackle all of the hormone-fueled angst, drama, school difficulties, homework, school activities, and be the scapegoat when the kids get mad at you. Also, if you have girls, you must realize that they are second class citizens in the church and the church will reinforce this idea. Hi, I'm so glad to be able to enter this forum. If your heart longs for children, a family and love- why should you stop yourself holding out for some mystical Mormon man to swoop you off your feet.
I also write erotic shorts which I hope help women heal from bad relationship and envision what they really want and create it. I tried to make the marriage work but we were at two different emotional places in our lifes. If so, you have a chance. Unless you convert she won't marry you, plain and simple. What am I getting myself into. I decided that if the church taught the general principle that couples should be married in the temple and that was not possible for me if I married this girlthen I should see if my choice would be an exception to the rule.